Parents Awareness Session - Std. 9 and 10

“Children need love, especially when they seem least deserving of it.” — Harold Hulbert

The Parents’ Awareness Sessions for Standards IX and X were conducted on 25 July 2025. The sessions were facilitated by Ms. Deepal Jain from Prafulta Psychological Services, Andheri. The programme included Saath Chalein – Understanding the 9th Grader’s Journey: A Message to Parents for Standard IX parents and Managing Exam Stress and Expectations for Standard X parents.

The Standard IX session focused on understanding the emotional and developmental needs of adolescents. Parents were encouraged to model the behaviour they expect from their children. For instance, reducing their own screen time can inspire children to develop healthier digital habits. Rather than merely restricting screen use, parents were encouraged to replace it with meaningful alternatives, particularly family interaction and quality time together.

The session highlighted that adolescents often feel misunderstood or judged. When children hesitate to share their feelings, it may be because they fear criticism, comparisons or immediate advice rather than understanding. Parents were encouraged to listen without judgement, validate their children's emotions and create a safe space for open communication. Simple activities such as eating meals together without television or mobile phones, asking thoughtful questions and sharing personal experiences can strengthen family bonds and create lasting memories.

Parents were reminded that identity formation is an important part of adolescence. Giving children age-appropriate independence, allowing them to make decisions, supporting their interests and respecting their individuality can help build confidence and responsibility. Rather than comparing children with others, parents were encouraged to recognise their unique strengths and celebrate effort and progress. The importance of Emotional Quotient (EQ) was also emphasised, as emotional resilience helps young people cope better with challenges and setbacks.

The Standard X session focused on academic stress, parental expectations, career guidance and effective study techniques. Parents were informed that students today have a wider range of career opportunities, which can sometimes create confusion. They were encouraged to consider not only their child's future success and financial independence but also the child's happiness and emotional well-being.

Academic pressure may arise from society, relatives, friends, peers and unrealistic parental expectations. Excessive parental anxiety about examinations can increase a child's stress. Signs of stress may include irritability, mood swings, sleep difficulties, low motivation, withdrawal, increased screen time and avoidance of studies. Parents were also reminded of common concerns expressed by children, such as, “We talk only about academics,” “Our parents don't understand us,” and “They compare us with others.” Comparisons can negatively affect self-confidence and self-esteem; therefore, parents were encouraged to appreciate each child's individual abilities and progress.

The importance of calm communication was emphasised. Parents were advised to focus on specific behaviour rather than making general statements that affect a child's identity. The Pomodoro Technique was also introduced as a simple study strategy: 20 minutes of focused study followed by a 5-minute break.

Overall, the sessions emphasised that while Standards IX and X are important academic years, excessive pressure can negatively affect a child's well-being. Parents play a vital role in helping adolescents feel understood, valued and supported. Open communication, realistic expectations, emotional resilience and healthy study habits can help children face challenges with greater confidence.